OMG! Just landed my dream part ...

I am so thrilled today! My agent called over the weekend and I have landed a dream part in a movie due out next Winter. I will be onset for a bit of time, thus I need to pause my frequent posts here but rest assured I will be back online as quick as I can.

This was the shot that landed me the part (it is from a swim wear shoot done in Destin, Fl ... wow the sand is brilliant white there!)

Anyway, I'll get back to new releases once I am wrapped up with everything on this new project ... wish me luck.

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly!
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Top 10 Tips for a Little Some’m Some’m With the New Guy (Okay I’ll Just Say it Girls … SEX Tips is the Topic in Today’s Post!)

Oh yea…you finally got past the first few dates and have spent some good quality time with this guy and there is no doubt that you like each other…check THAT box.  There is obviously sexual tension between you two and you are ready to move past the passionate make-out sessions and get down and dirty with this guy.  You may think that there is a guarantee that the sex is going to be earth shattering, considering how he makes your hoo-ha tingle even when he touches your hand, but don’t be too sure.  There can be many instances where things can go wrong and you are left disappointed or worse, he is left thinking “what a let-down!”  Read the tips below to help you make sure this will be a night that neither of you are soon to forget.

1. Be Prepared
First and foremost, don’t expect that he’s going to come fully equipped with a pocket full of condoms, ready to slap it on at a moment’s notice.  Although many guys do carry ammo, there are some that are not so well-prepared.  In case he is unsure that you are ready and willing to get it on that night, he may not bring the necessary equipment.  Be sure to take a special trip and grab some Trojans before the date.  You may even find that he’s turned on by the fact that you premeditated your sexual escapades.  Plus, it’s always better to be safe than sorry.  There’s nothing worse than halting a passionate moment to have to go out and run that errand….talk about a thrill kill!

2. Take Your Time
I know, I know!  You just want to rip off both of your clothes and get to the goods ASAP.  Don’t let this rookie mistake ruin what could be a highly erotic experience.  Foreplay is huge to a guy and can heighten the senses like no other.  The first night with someone really is when you should take your time.  So keep things slow and steamy from the get-go.  During foreplay, when his hands start to wander too daringly or you think he may just want to dive in, grab his wrists and hold them tight.  Then give him a long, drawn out kiss.  Believe me, men love it when a woman takes control like this because it helps them understand what she wants.  All you have to do to amp up the pleasure is alternate between heavy petting and kissing…when you think you’ve both had enough and you are both about to explode, then it’s time to seal the deal.

3. Acknowledge Awkward Moments
There are bound to be a few awkward moments in the throes of passion.  Maybe he can’t get your bra undone or you knock heads in the heat of it all.  It’s far better and a bit more fun if you find a way to lighten up these moments.  If he’s having trouble with your bra, give him a smile and say, “Let me try.  I know the trick with this one”  Or if you knock heads, give him a gentle kiss on the area and a wink and move on.  Keeping it playful is important and helps you both to stay relaxed.

4. Express Yourself
Whether or not it’s hard to believe, guys are not just concerned about their own pleasure.  In fact, most guys have a harder time enjoying themselves when they’re unsure if their partner is having a good time.  Because he doesn’t know you intimately yet, he doesn’t know all of your little inaudible signs of pleasure, so it’s crucial that you tell him.  All you have to do is praise him when something feels really good because he’s bound to file it away and incorporate it into future sex sessions.   By being vocal about what feels amazing, you keep the steamy momentum at present plus help him learn more of what you like.

5. Watch the Dirty Talk
Sure a guy loves to hear some nasty words come out of his chick when making sweet passionate, but that doesn’t mean the first time (or every time for that matter).  Refrain from sounding like too much of a dirty girl from the get-go....you may scare him off if you are immediately dropping the “f” bomb and telling him where to stick it.  Remember, if he wanted to date a pornstar, he would be doing so (he’s not Tiger Woods after all!).

6. Hold Back from Getting Crazy Acrobatic
Just like the dirty talk, a guy doesn’t want to see how you can pretzel yourself into some ungodly position when he is first with you.  Although the way you have learned to contort your body may eventually be exciting for him, what he wants from you right now is to simply get to know your body slowly, albeit passionately.  Keep that sex contortionist in you in your back pocket for some other time (or for when the circus is in town).

7. Don’t Overanalyze
Let’s say that things are VERY hot and heavy and you are feeling things wake in you that you thought were dead.  It’s obvious that he’s taken you to pleasure town and you are doing a fabulous job of telling him when and where it feels good and moaning at oh-so-just the right moments.  The problem is you’re not getting any form of feedback from him.  You may be wanting to throw up a red flag at this point but don’t fret.  Some guys have trouble expressing themselves with their first encounter with a new girl.  As long as you’re enjoying yourself, don’t worry about him.  Chances are he’s in hog heaven and the next time you are together he won’t have any problems letting you know how he’s really feeling!

8. Don’t Hide Your Orgasm
Yes, you are still getting to know each other and there are some things you may not want to do (or overdo) this time.  Having an orgasm and letting him know is not one of them.  A guy needs to know that he pleasured you and although you shouldn’t howl like a hyena and let all the neighbors know what’s going on over there, you should at least express some moans of pleasure when that sweet moment finally arrives.  Keep in mind, the guy’s ego is at stake here and if he doesn’t know that you got something out of it, too, he will be crushed.

9. Walk Around Naked Afterward
Body confidence is a huge plus to a guy.  If you jump out of bed and immediately fumble around for your clothes, this tells him that you are not comfortable with your body.  Remember, the guy just spent the last hour or so exploring every inch of you from a very up-close angle…he saw it all!  Show him that you are okay with your body (even if you’re not) and he’ll be more likely to want to go for another round.

10. Tell Him How Great it Was
Hopefully, you snagged a guy with plenty of confidence in himself.  Even though this may be the case, he will still welcome any positive feedback from you.  While enjoying your pillow talk after the main event, let him know how much you enjoyed yourself (provided of course you did enjoy yourself).  If you feed his sex ego he’s much more likely to try even harder to please you the next time.

It’s important to know that being prepared for the first time with a new guy is critical.  After all, you didn’t just throw on the first thing you can find and were ready for your first date with him in 5 minutes, right?  So why should the first time you have sex be any different?  Now do your homework and get prepared for this wonderfully delicious moment in your life….after all, it’s finally time to check the sex box.

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!
www.lookmeupbaby.com

Top 10 First Date Tips for Women

Alright, so you are pretty darn sure you like this guy and are determined to make sure that this first date turns into date #2 and so on and so on. What you don’t want is to end up in that bucket of women who are asking themselves: “What happened? At first he seemed to really like me. But for some reason, over the course of dinner, he became a little cold and distant. By the time he dropped me off, he seemed withdrawn and just sped off and I haven’t heard from him since! What did I do wrong?” Although you may never be able to pinpoint exactly what happens on a date-gone-awry, below are some tips to help make the date a success and keep him coming back for more.

1. Dress for Success
The way you dress for a first date says a lot about who you are and provides some important visual clues to your partner. A word of caution however: when it comes to a first date you may not really want to divulge the closet hippy or femme fatale lurking within. Wear something a bit clingy with a slight amount of cleavage but don’t let it all pour out of your clothing and for heaven’s sake, don’t cover it all up either! It’s okay to be a bit suggestive, just don’t overdo it. Leaving a little something to the imagination can keep him coming back for more.

2. Keep your Hygiene in Check
Hopefully to many of you, this seems like common sense, but I’ve heard of several instances where there are a few things “overlooked” in the hygiene department and MAN, can this be a deal breaker! As you know, bad breath on a man is bad, but bad breath on a woman can be down-right repulsing to a guy…so please, brush your teeth before the date and keep those mints handy. Also be sure to wear a good scent because men are such sensory animals. A good scent can arouse a man like no other. Washing your hair is also mandatory before a date. Guys love to smell the hair so having great smelling hair is absolutely necessary. Also, please be sure to shave your legs and especially your armpits…you don’t want the guy gagging on his food because he got a glimpse of your gorilla pits in the middle of dinner..yuck!

3. Don’t Get Tipsy
Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date’s character. Practice restraint, and don’t have more than a drink or two when you’re out on a first date. Otherwise, how in the world can you possibly observe him and decide if he’s remotely right for you? Besides, do you really think that his first real memory of you should be of you drinking him under the table and him having to escort you out of the restaurant?

4. Don’t Talk About Past Relationships
I don’t care if he cheated on you with your best friend, don’t recite a laundry list of grievances about your exes. This will only make you sound unavailable at best, or worse, wounded. Reveal your secrets when you’re both on a beach in Hawaii or, better yet, just save all those past-date woes for your girlfriends. Remember, we all have baggage and some of it’s okay to keep in the closet. Don’t spook the guy.

5. Stay Confident
Now is not the time to point out your physical flaws. Only bring these complaints to people who can actually do something about them, and not to men who will now be force to lie to you if they possess good manners. Besides, insecurity is a complete turn-off to guys. Keep in mind that confidence is sexy…let him relish in the fact that not only are you hot, you are completely aware of it!

6. Bat the Lashes
Seriously, guys need a sign. You can’t just talk normally; you’ve got to flirt effectively. This means touch his arm, his hand. If you are watching a horror movie, hold onto him tightly when it’s a scary scene. Tell him how cute he looks or tell him he has nice arms/muscles. Give him smiling glances. It’ll give him the hint that you do like him and will make him reciprocate by flirting back.

7. Don’t Chase Your Date
Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it’s so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first date, but after that, it’s up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward. When men chase you, they’re much less likely to fly away.

8. Don’t Keep Squawking
Don’t feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless chatter. If the conversation falls silent for a moment, don’t panic, just let it happen. Natural pauses are sexy, and body language can be so much more powerful than words. Slowly smile at him and breathe. You may be surprised when he blurts out in the middle of a deliciously pregnant pause, “Come here and kiss me!” Remember, sometimes less conversation is more.

9. Know About Guy Stuff
Even if you don’t know a football from a hole in the ground, try to brush up on your knowledge of some sport you have an interest in. Most guys will not expect a girl to want to discuss who won the last night’s playoff game (no matter what the sport) so he will be more than pleasantly surprised to hear that you do! Also, a large number of guys play video games so knowing how to play some wouldn’t hurt. Of course, you don’t want a guy who’s a “gamer”, but if he plays every once in awhile for fun, it’s bound to be another great date-night idea for the two of you.

10. Don’t Jump Into the Sack
You may be incredibly into this guy and you get the vibe that the feeling is mutual. Although this is fantastic news, be cautious not to take it too far. It’s okay to have an amazingly steamy make-out session with him, but don’t take it to the next level…yet. You have to leave him with wanting more, plus you don’t want him to think that you go this far with every first date. Keeping him at second base adds to the chase and gets him to try to lock in that second date asap. If you can, try to keep your clothes on at least until date number 3…believe me, it adds to the suspense and makes that first time even more passionate and memorable.

If done right, a first date can almost always turn into more. Just remember not to let him know every last detail about you. The idea is to get to know HIM and keep him guessing about YOU…so keep that carrot dangling and let the chase begin!

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly!
www.lookmeupbaby.com

Top 10 First Date Tips for Men: From A Woman’s Perspective

So you just landed a date with the hottie you met at the in the checkout line at the grocery store … Excellent! Good news is that she seems just as excited about the date as you are. Bad news is, the last time you asked for advice it was from a buddy who told you that chicks loved arrogant men and to make sure to try to get in her pants on the first date. Yeah, I really bet that got you far with her. And you wonder why so many of your buddies (and you) are still single? Believe me, I’m sure you’re thinking that dating tips for men wouldn’t seem like something you have to read about in a blog; after all, you can just keep asking your buddies for their advice, right? Get real, man! If you truly want to impress this girl and hope that the attraction doesn’t just end on the first date, do yourself a favor and free yourself from the advice of your couch-potato, beer bellied (single) friends and read on:

1. Keep it Creative but Casual
There are many ways to be creative for the first date (reference my Date Night Ideas—it applies to men as well). If you add some creativity, it shows that you cared about this date and want it to be fun and interesting. There is no reason to break the bank here… you don’t have to go to the Ritz to impress a woman. You will get a lot more mileage by keeping the date creative but casual. She is more likely to be impressed by your innovation rather than the size of your pocketbook.

2. Give Her a Head’s Up
There is nothing worse for a girl than not knowing what to wear on a date. She already has a hard enough time figuring out what to wear when she KNOWS where she’s going but to have no clue just adds unneeded stress. If you are the one in charge of the plans for this date, for God’s sake, let her know. You are not “seeming mysterious” or “thrilling” by keeping her in the dark, especially for the first date. Give the poor girl a break and let her know where you are headed so she can look as fabulous as possible and not end up wearing a party dress when you planned to take her on a hike!

3. Spend Time on Yourself
A girl needs to know that you care enough about the date that you spent some time on yourself. If you show up with a tattered t-shirt and an unshaven face, she’s going to think you don’t care enough about her or the date to take some time to prepare. Pick out a hip outfit (have a girl or gay friend help you if you need it) and be sure to have on a nice pair of shoes, you may even want to take the time to get them polished up. Also, for God’s sake, make sure you have nice breath! Be sure to brush your teeth to pearly white completion and keep some mints handy to ward off any garlic or coffee breath.

4. Show Up on Time
Don’t ever, ever keep a woman waiting on you. It doesn’t build anticipation, it makes you appear inconsiderate and self-centered. If something happens and you can’t avoid running late, call her and apologize and let her know so she isn’t sitting at home thinking you blew her off.

5. Be Confident but Not Arrogant
Let’s face it, confidence is sexy but arrogance is a HUGE turn off. Simple things can show a woman that you are confident: making eye contact, being a gentleman, being proud of your job, etc. Arrogance is completely different: if you’re not careful you can come across as full of yourself and instead of respecting your date, you can appear to be-little her and make yourself seem that you think you are the best thing since sliced bread. Be sure of yourself but stay humble.

6. Ask Questions
Of course you want her to get to know you. You’ll have plenty of opportunity to let her get to know you if you get to know her on those first few dates. You should certainly answer her questions and give input to the conversation, but make sure you ask her about what she likes and what she’s interested in. Don’t forget to get her opinion rather than just giving yours, and if you disagree on a particular subject, that’s fine. Debating an interesting topic in a relaxed manner will show you’re intelligent and that you respect her opinion. And please, don’t insist on changing her mind…respect her independence.

7. Don’t Sound Like a Sports Fanatic
Alright, it’s okay to enjoy sports. Most women find it sexy when a guy likes to watch football on Sundays and follows certain teams. But a major red flag is a guy that completely obsesses over a sport/sports. I once dated a guy (notice the words “once dated”) who was obsessed with not only Fantasy Football but Fantasy Baseball, as well. If you know anything about these pastimes you know how much time is spent researching the players, following the games and so on and so ooooonnn! Please, if you are one of those guys, keep it to yourself at least for the first date and in all honesty, please try to simmer it down. It is one thing to enjoy a leisurely weekend watching a game on the couch, but it is a completely different story to spend every waking moment pouring over stats on the computer and preoccupied with who wins the pot. She’s bound to think you don’t have a life thus no time for her.

8. Be Yourself
I know this sounds simplistic, but I’m often astounded by the number of men who try to show off how successful and important they are by inflating their job titles, salary, etc. Do you really want to get caught in this type of charade weeks or even months down the line? If she’s really the one for you, she’ll respect what you do and who you are. Far better for her to find out now than later, trust me. PLEASE NOTE: If you remember any of my dating tips for men, this one is the absolute most important.

9. Have Fun and Flirt
The secret to having a great date is to build rapport and attraction. When you’re out with her, this should be one of your first concerns. If there is not attraction between the two of you, the date will go nowhere. So it’s important to have a little fun and flirt with her. Tell her she looks beautiful and feed her compliments throughout the night. Touch her hand or her leg (don’t grope, just a tender touch here or there is sufficient). Done right, flirty affection goes a long way with a girl and she’s bound to come back for more.

10. Don’t Expect Sex
If you truly do like this girl, believe me she’s worth the wait. If you find that there is plenty of sexual chemistry between you two remind yourself that it will still be there for the next date. If she is playing her cards right, she is going to make you wait until at least date number three before she leads you into the gates of heaven. Prepare yourself for the grim reality ahead of time that there will be no nookie on the first go-around. Sure, a great make-out session is more than acceptable, but know when to back off and leave like a gentleman. Keep in mind that there is nothing sexier than a patient man.

From my experience, if a guy follows these basic tips and there is an obvious attraction between you, there is no doubt she will want to go out with you again. So quit asking your bone-head friends for advice and follow the advice from an expert!

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!
www.lookmeupbaby.com

So You've Got A Date ... Where Would It Be Fun To Go?

Alright, so you’ve landed what appears to be a very promising date with the guy you ever-so-slyly gave your number to while at Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf with your girlfriend … NICE!  Here is a pleasant surprise, he just sent you a text and wants you to name three of your favorite things to do and he’ll surprise you with one of them. Good sign, in my opinion as it shows he can be creative and still sensitive to satisfying your desires for enjoyment.  Although some women may prefer a guy to do all the planning on the first several dates, I find that it’s empowering to be able to choose where you two will go.  Plus, it puts you in the driver’s seat and what venue you choose can give him a sense of your personality.  If you find yourself panicked though at the thought of being in charge of proposing where to go out together, below are ten of what I think are the most practiced as well as impacting to really kick things off on the right foot with someone:

1. “Locals” favorite restaurant that does not have a liquor license but let’s you bring in your own wine ...
I love doing this in a local little Italian spot near my house. What is so fun about it, is I’ll go first to my local wine shop, have the owner walk us through some selections to match what we think our meals are going to be and then head on over to dine. This really allows us to spend some time shopping, learning and eating together. Such a fun way to ease into a first date with someone … Now if you drink and he does not you should skip to the next idea and chalk this one up as just not for you; or you have serious budget constraints that is OK too as in wine there are many great bottles to share at price points for all wallet sizes.

2.  Outdoor concert ...
This kind of date is always fun and unique but of course more geared toward the warmer months of the year.  Many outdoor arenas have a summer concert series going on all throughout the warm summer months.  Dust off your picnic basket and tell him to put together some cheese and crackers paired with a nice bottle of wine and you’ve got yourself a nice romantic date under the stars!

3. Comedy club ...
I love this idea.  Try to find a time when a really good comedian is in town…there is nothing better than a good laugh on a date and it gives you plenty to chat about.  Also, a lot of the comedy clubs offer dinner before the show and drinks afterward so it’s basically a one-stop-shop-o-fun!

4.  Take a music lesson ...
Ever want to play the piano?  Ever think about drumming a guitar?  Why not try it out with your new date!  There are many starving musicians out there that are willing to give out lessons for a song (pardon the pun, of course!).  Try Cragslist or look into your community newsletter and I can guarantee that you will find someone willing to give you both an hour of music lessons for cheap.  Even if you both are completely tone deaf, you will most likely get a laugh out of each other’s skills (or non-skills).  Follow that up with a trip to the local coffee shop that has live music and compare your new-found talents with who’s on stage!

5. Random stroll down at boutique market ...
Take him to your local market and don’t bring any recipe or plan of what you two should cook up.  Just wing it together and take him back to your house (or volunteer his) for a cook-off.  Kitchen convo is always fun and it will be a blast to find out not only if he knows his way around a kitchen, but to also see if he has any culinary skills.  On this type of date, there are never too many cooks in the kitchen!

6.  Beach glow ...
If you live by a beach, this is a really fun creative date idea. First, go to a party store and buy two glow in the dark sticks and one frisbee that lights up when you throw it. Now tell him you want to go on a night-time date to the beach. When you arrive, pull out your glow sticks and frisbee. Give your partner one of the glow sticks and have him activate it. Now go to the beach, spread apart, and throw them at each other, trying to catch them. It's a lot of fun and creates a great "night glow" display. You can also throw the glow sticks as far as you can into the ocean. The waves will bring them back to you! And the glow they make in the water is also cool to watch.
Activate your light-up frisbee and enjoy throwing it to each other and watching it as it lights up the night in a multi-color display. When you're done with this night-time adventure, be sure to properly dispose of the glow sticks! And make sure you bring a flashlight to remember where you put your shoes. One of my dates and I spent 20 minutes looking for his shoes when I didn't bring a flashlight. There was no moon that night!

7.  Coin toss ...
Start at your date's house. Before you get to an intersection, flip the coin. Heads you turn right; tails you turn left. Use this technique to decide where to go to dinner (you stop at the first restaurant as determined by the flip of a coin).

8.  Nature hike ...
Nature is calling, and who better to answer than you? Suit up and take a leisurely, or intense, hike through a national park or preserve with your date. Feast on granola bars and feel the warmth of the sunshine as the two of you march to your own beat.

9.  Volunteer ...
Helping others is one of the most rewarding experiences available. Why not work together in a food pantry or soup kitchen? There are always charitable organizations in need of help and working for the greater good will break down any defenses and allow the two of you greater intimacy.

10.  Laser tag ...
Does your date have a competitive spirit? Arm yourself with laser guns and enter a full-out war in a special laser tag arena. It is always best to try and be on the same side as to avoid a full-blown confrontation in the first thirty minutes of your date, but if your date is actually up for laser tag, anything goes.

Any of these choices are bound to ensure that you will have a ball.  Even if your date is a dud, you can always be proud of the fact that you thought out of the box and suggested a date that you are not soon to forget.  If he is as wonderful as you hoped, you can guarantee that he will be bragging to his friends about what a creative and interesting date he just had.  So take charge ladies and by all means, have fun with it.

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!
www.lookmeupbaby.com

Top 10 Least Popular and Destructive Conversation Topics On Your First Date

As I furthered my research I also came across what are typically are the Top 10 least popular and actually destructive conversational topics that take place on a first date. In my last entry, I gave suggestions on “what to” and “what not” to say. Here, all I have to tell you is: don’t even go here with the following! Every one of these top 10 are bound to get you into some sort of debate, freak the guy out or completely turn him off, and the same can apply to you! Even if you find that you are avoiding these topics nicely, but he keeps trying to reel you into one of them, just politely say: “I’m sorry, I just don’t like to get into that kind of subject on a first date....please though, tell me more about the last places you traveled”.

Here are those topics you should avoid and keep him away from as well:

1. Politics

2. Other dates

3. Past relationships

4. Science fiction

5. Religion

6. Celebrities

7. Science

8. Antiques

9. Money

10. History

Remember, you guys are just at the get-to-know-you-better phase. Save the deep conversations for later when you DO know each other better…believe me, who you voted for in the last election, what you did on other dates and the latest celebrity gossip can all wait. If you guys hit it off, you have all the time in the world to talk about these issues. If you DON’T hit it off, at least you just had a night of easy conversation by staying on the top 10 MOST popular topics.

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!
www.lookmeupbaby.com

Top 10 Most Popular and Constructive Conversation Topics On Your First Date

Been doing quite a bit of research of zero in on what typically are the Top 10 most popular and constructive conversational topics that take place on a first date. What I have decided to do is not just list what I have found in terms of the topics, but also give some examples of what I think are the “what not” and/or the “what to” say if you find yourself square in the middle of any one of these while on a date.  So keep this list in your back pocket (not literally of course) and you are bound to have a wonderful night of easy conversation.

1. Hopes and Aspirations

What to say: “One goal of mine is to run a marathon by the time I turn 30.”

What not to say: “I have to have a child by the time I turn 30. If I don’t, my plan is to find a donor and just be a single mom—hey, if things don’t work out between us, would you consider being a donor? No strings attached, I promise!”

*It doesn’t hurt to express a goal of yours that is reachable regarding your career or something semi-personal, like a fitness goal. Don’t get into kids, marriage or anything of that sort…avoid it like the plague or you just may find yourself finishing that dinner alone.

2. Hobbies/Interests in general

What to say: “I love yoga, I find it’s the best way to keep my mind and body balanced.”

What not to say: “One of my favorite hobbies is that I’m a “luncher”. I love going out to lunch with my girlfriends and gossip about other people. How about you? Are you a “luncher?”

3. Music

Pretty much anything goes here. It’s more than okay to have different tastes in music, sometimes it can even be fun to explore different venues…keep an open mind here.

4. Dreams

What to say: “My dream is to have a successful career and to be respected in my field.”

What not to say: “My dream is to have a successful career and I don’t care whos toes I have to step on to get there.”

5. Friends

What to say: “I am so lucky to have the friends that I do.”

What not to say: “I have sooooo many friends I can’t even count! Yeah, some of them are pretty self-centered and catty, but at least I know I always have someone to go out with on a moment’s notice!”

6. Romance

What to say: “I think it’s romantic when I see an old couple still holding hands after 30 years of marriage.”

What not to say: “If a guy is not sending you flowers once a week and filling up your bubble bath every night, then there is something seriously wrong with him.”

7. Travel

What to say: “One of my favorite things about traveling is seeing new places, meeting new people and exploring different cultures.”

What not to say: “I only go travel if I can travel first class stay in 5 Star hotels where the staff waits on me hand and foot. I mean, it’s not really traveling unless you are doted on 100% of the time.”

8. Vacations

Same conversation can apply to travel (#7)

9. Movies

Pretty much same goes here as in music…keep an open mind and don’t be afraid to share your tastes.

10. Entertainment

What to say: “I love to go out dancing once in awhile with my girlfriends to blow off some steam.”

What not to say: “Oh my God, if I don’t go clubbing at least 2 nights a week, I feel like I’m totally missing out!”

Another great thought to keep in mind during your first dates with a new beau, is that just because a conversation may not be flowing perfectly does not mean that there is not a good chemistry between you. First dates are nerve racking for anyone, men and women alike and if you both find yourself sitting there chocking on what next to say, go ahead and dive into any one of the topics above … words should just start flowing from there.

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!

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Tis the season for warm clothes! It's time to step up and show your fun side —“Sexessory”

Wow, it’s hard to believe that Thanksgiving is already over and we are fast approaching Christmas ... Hanukah ... Kwanza ... whatever your holiday flavor is. No matter what you celebrate, the holiday season is in the air and by golly it’s time to add some spice into your wardrobe.

One thing you don’t know about me yet is that I LOVE fashion. I am obsessed with the current trends, and even more obsessed with trying to be well in front of the upcoming trends. I pride myself on having an eye for what is going to be "in fashion" a season or so before it comes out. It never hurts to impress a guy by wearing a style he may have never seen before and then find that it’s a big hit the next season. Now, of course he may not be into that sort of thing, may not even notice anything much about your wardrobe besides how much cleavage you are showing, but I do have one sure-fire suggestion today to ensure he won’t forget what you wear this night. So here goes ... you finally have a first date with the guy you have had your eye on for awhile now, or maybe you have been on a few dates and it’s starting to look a little more promising than something casual, even better yet, you have been dating awhile and are about to meet the parents (yikes!). Well, why not show him your festive side and tie in some simple yet fun holiday colors. I’m not going to condone getting all decked out and wearing a Christmas tree sweater that glows in the dark, or red and green plaid pants or even ornament earrings ... unless you envision yourself living alone with 20 cats by the time you’re 45. What I am saying is to add some color into your wardrobe and you can do it simply and cheaply. My fashion tip this holiday is a simple suggestion that can double as a sexy little number to use later in the eve as well (keep reading, trust me, it gets good!). Find a red or green or red/green scarf at a favorite store of yours; depending on your budget you can find one anywhere from $15 to the $100s. Remember, the purpose here is not to break the bank, just to liven up your wardrobe. You can then tie this scarf to your purse and it will instantly add a pop of color! Of course, you will need to make sure that it matches whatever it is you are wearing so plan accordingly, but you get the idea.

Perfect example here. Just use a holiday color instead and you are on your way!

















It doesn’t hurt to add in some fun lingerie as a bonus. To save money, you can go buy a red panty set that can double as a Valentine’s outfit. Even if it is your first date and you are not planning on showing him your goods, you at least know what’s under there and we all know that we feel a little more sexy with fun undies on, so it’s bound to amp up your sex appeal no matter what! And remember that scarf you tied around your purse? If you end up in the sack (sorry had to do it ... get it, “sack”, “Christmas”, haha), you can use that scarf as a blindfold later. So even if he doesn’t appreciate the additional accessory you so strategically placed on your purse, you can bet the farm that he won’t forget it once you use it as a “sexessory” :)




















Okay, so it’s not a scarf, but I HAD to put this pic in as a visual ... I couldn’t help myself ... if I can find this guy, I’d like to just ask if I can touch his chest ... maybe even just run one finger down his abs, omg. I’m sorry I just got sidetracked for a sec…did I just write that?

Now go out there and have some fun ...

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!
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The Beginning

There should be many reasons why I have decided to enter into the world of blogging but it really is to have sort of a virtual communication with more women in my boat ... women dealing with the ups and downs of modern day romance. My aim is to share my experiences as a single woman and think that in the process I can entertain, educate and just have some fun with it. Let’s face it, although some aspects of our lives may not parallel, if you are reading this we do indeed share one major thing in common … MEN. We are single women and whether some of us may simply be just exploring the weird world of men and others are looking for the perfect life-long mate, we can all relate to stories of being in and out of relationships ... some completely comical, some entirely heartbreaking.

First off, you should know a little bit about me. I am in my mid-twenties, a petite blond and by what other people tell me, I am an attractive and charming human being. Although my looks and personality carry weight in many areas of my life, I DO live in LA and there are more than a fair share of attractive, “I want to get to know her better” women out here. I have been acting and modeling for several years now, more modeling then acting but I am really trying to push out of being “aspiring” to actually “being.” I’m not trying to get “discovered” at Starbucks and being shot into the limelight overnight, but rather am trying to do things right,through hard work and persistence. In this town that is not as easy as it seems as there are plenty of douche bags that will promise you anything/everything but not so many true to their word fellas that tell it like it is.

Anyway, I invite you to enter this world with me. I am going to cover a wide range of topics as I go along. Believe me, I have been on MANY dates, ranging from totally kick-ass to down-right wretched. Sometimes you will get a story from me from my past experiences with a moral at the end of it, sometimes it will be about something I learned about myself along the way and other times you will be receiving advice from my experiences as a single woman in this crazy world of dating.

I know many of you have also been online or have read in magazines all of these suggestions such as “Tips for Successful Dating”, “Meeting for the First Time and 10 Things Not to Do”, “Online Socializing and Dating Guides”, among countless others. Well, if you have read these articles but have not ever had the chance to apply them, enter: your Hero!! I am going to find articles with tips and suggestions and actually use them on my dates and report back to see if they actually work! And yes, I am going to explore various online dating sites to see exactly how it works and to see if I can land “THE man!” I know, I am a brave woman and YOU’RE WELCOME in advance for putting myself out there for ya’ll….I can’t wait to see how it turns out (oh God I’m scared)!

I must say that I am not promising to help you find Mr Right, nor I am promising to change your world in any dramatic way. What I can promise is that you will be entertained, will most likely be able to relate to some of my stories and may just get a laugh or two out of it along the way. Heck, you may even learn a little bit about men and yourself!

So sit back with your laptop and enjoy ...

Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!
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