Top 10 First Date Tips for Women

Alright, so you are pretty darn sure you like this guy and are determined to make sure that this first date turns into date #2 and so on and so on. What you don’t want is to end up in that bucket of women who are asking themselves: “What happened? At first he seemed to really like me. But for some reason, over the course of dinner, he became a little cold and distant. By the time he dropped me off, he seemed withdrawn and just sped off and I haven’t heard from him since! What did I do wrong?” Although you may never be able to pinpoint exactly what happens on a date-gone-awry, below are some tips to help make the date a success and keep him coming back for more.

1. Dress for Success
The way you dress for a first date says a lot about who you are and provides some important visual clues to your partner. A word of caution however: when it comes to a first date you may not really want to divulge the closet hippy or femme fatale lurking within. Wear something a bit clingy with a slight amount of cleavage but don’t let it all pour out of your clothing and for heaven’s sake, don’t cover it all up either! It’s okay to be a bit suggestive, just don’t overdo it. Leaving a little something to the imagination can keep him coming back for more.

2. Keep your Hygiene in Check
Hopefully to many of you, this seems like common sense, but I’ve heard of several instances where there are a few things “overlooked” in the hygiene department and MAN, can this be a deal breaker! As you know, bad breath on a man is bad, but bad breath on a woman can be down-right repulsing to a guy…so please, brush your teeth before the date and keep those mints handy. Also be sure to wear a good scent because men are such sensory animals. A good scent can arouse a man like no other. Washing your hair is also mandatory before a date. Guys love to smell the hair so having great smelling hair is absolutely necessary. Also, please be sure to shave your legs and especially your armpits…you don’t want the guy gagging on his food because he got a glimpse of your gorilla pits in the middle of dinner..yuck!

3. Don’t Get Tipsy
Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date’s character. Practice restraint, and don’t have more than a drink or two when you’re out on a first date. Otherwise, how in the world can you possibly observe him and decide if he’s remotely right for you? Besides, do you really think that his first real memory of you should be of you drinking him under the table and him having to escort you out of the restaurant?

4. Don’t Talk About Past Relationships
I don’t care if he cheated on you with your best friend, don’t recite a laundry list of grievances about your exes. This will only make you sound unavailable at best, or worse, wounded. Reveal your secrets when you’re both on a beach in Hawaii or, better yet, just save all those past-date woes for your girlfriends. Remember, we all have baggage and some of it’s okay to keep in the closet. Don’t spook the guy.

5. Stay Confident
Now is not the time to point out your physical flaws. Only bring these complaints to people who can actually do something about them, and not to men who will now be force to lie to you if they possess good manners. Besides, insecurity is a complete turn-off to guys. Keep in mind that confidence is sexy…let him relish in the fact that not only are you hot, you are completely aware of it!

6. Bat the Lashes
Seriously, guys need a sign. You can’t just talk normally; you’ve got to flirt effectively. This means touch his arm, his hand. If you are watching a horror movie, hold onto him tightly when it’s a scary scene. Tell him how cute he looks or tell him he has nice arms/muscles. Give him smiling glances. It’ll give him the hint that you do like him and will make him reciprocate by flirting back.

7. Don’t Chase Your Date
Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it’s so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first date, but after that, it’s up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward. When men chase you, they’re much less likely to fly away.

8. Don’t Keep Squawking
Don’t feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless chatter. If the conversation falls silent for a moment, don’t panic, just let it happen. Natural pauses are sexy, and body language can be so much more powerful than words. Slowly smile at him and breathe. You may be surprised when he blurts out in the middle of a deliciously pregnant pause, “Come here and kiss me!” Remember, sometimes less conversation is more.

9. Know About Guy Stuff
Even if you don’t know a football from a hole in the ground, try to brush up on your knowledge of some sport you have an interest in. Most guys will not expect a girl to want to discuss who won the last night’s playoff game (no matter what the sport) so he will be more than pleasantly surprised to hear that you do! Also, a large number of guys play video games so knowing how to play some wouldn’t hurt. Of course, you don’t want a guy who’s a “gamer”, but if he plays every once in awhile for fun, it’s bound to be another great date-night idea for the two of you.

10. Don’t Jump Into the Sack
You may be incredibly into this guy and you get the vibe that the feeling is mutual. Although this is fantastic news, be cautious not to take it too far. It’s okay to have an amazingly steamy make-out session with him, but don’t take it to the next level…yet. You have to leave him with wanting more, plus you don’t want him to think that you go this far with every first date. Keeping him at second base adds to the chase and gets him to try to lock in that second date asap. If you can, try to keep your clothes on at least until date number 3…believe me, it adds to the suspense and makes that first time even more passionate and memorable.

If done right, a first date can almost always turn into more. Just remember not to let him know every last detail about you. The idea is to get to know HIM and keep him guessing about YOU…so keep that carrot dangling and let the chase begin!

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