Been doing quite a bit of research of zero in on what typically are the Top 10 most popular and constructive conversational topics that take place on a first date. What I have decided to do is not just list what I have found in terms of the topics, but also give some examples of what I think are the “what not” and/or the “what to” say if you find yourself square in the middle of any one of these while on a date. So keep this list in your back pocket (not literally of course) and you are bound to have a wonderful night of easy conversation.
1. Hopes and Aspirations
What to say: “One goal of mine is to run a marathon by the time I turn 30.”
What not to say: “I have to have a child by the time I turn 30. If I don’t, my plan is to find a donor and just be a single mom—hey, if things don’t work out between us, would you consider being a donor? No strings attached, I promise!”
*It doesn’t hurt to express a goal of yours that is reachable regarding your career or something semi-personal, like a fitness goal. Don’t get into kids, marriage or anything of that sort…avoid it like the plague or you just may find yourself finishing that dinner alone.
2. Hobbies/Interests in general
What to say: “I love yoga, I find it’s the best way to keep my mind and body balanced.”
What not to say: “One of my favorite hobbies is that I’m a “luncher”. I love going out to lunch with my girlfriends and gossip about other people. How about you? Are you a “luncher?”
3. Music
Pretty much anything goes here. It’s more than okay to have different tastes in music, sometimes it can even be fun to explore different venues…keep an open mind here.
4. Dreams
What to say: “My dream is to have a successful career and to be respected in my field.”
What not to say: “My dream is to have a successful career and I don’t care whos toes I have to step on to get there.”
5. Friends
What to say: “I am so lucky to have the friends that I do.”
What not to say: “I have sooooo many friends I can’t even count! Yeah, some of them are pretty self-centered and catty, but at least I know I always have someone to go out with on a moment’s notice!”
6. Romance
What to say: “I think it’s romantic when I see an old couple still holding hands after 30 years of marriage.”
What not to say: “If a guy is not sending you flowers once a week and filling up your bubble bath every night, then there is something seriously wrong with him.”
7. Travel
What to say: “One of my favorite things about traveling is seeing new places, meeting new people and exploring different cultures.”
What not to say: “I only go travel if I can travel first class stay in 5 Star hotels where the staff waits on me hand and foot. I mean, it’s not really traveling unless you are doted on 100% of the time.”
8. Vacations
Same conversation can apply to travel (#7)
9. Movies
Pretty much same goes here as in music…keep an open mind and don’t be afraid to share your tastes.
10. Entertainment
What to say: “I love to go out dancing once in awhile with my girlfriends to blow off some steam.”
What not to say: “Oh my God, if I don’t go clubbing at least 2 nights a week, I feel like I’m totally missing out!”
Another great thought to keep in mind during your first dates with a new beau, is that just because a conversation may not be flowing perfectly does not mean that there is not a good chemistry between you. First dates are nerve racking for anyone, men and women alike and if you both find yourself sitting there chocking on what next to say, go ahead and dive into any one of the topics above … words should just start flowing from there.
Hopelessly But Not Helplessly Seeking Love!
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