Oh yea…you finally got past the first few dates and have spent some good quality time with this guy and there is no doubt that you like each other…check THAT box. There is obviously sexual tension between you two and you are ready to move past the passionate make-out sessions and get down and dirty with this guy. You may think that there is a guarantee that the sex is going to be earth shattering, considering how he makes your hoo-ha tingle even when he touches your hand, but don’t be too sure. There can be many instances where things can go wrong and you are left disappointed or worse, he is left thinking “what a let-down!” Read the tips below to help you make sure this will be a night that neither of you are soon to forget.
1. Be Prepared
First and foremost, don’t expect that he’s going to come fully equipped with a pocket full of condoms, ready to slap it on at a moment’s notice. Although many guys do carry ammo, there are some that are not so well-prepared. In case he is unsure that you are ready and willing to get it on that night, he may not bring the necessary equipment. Be sure to take a special trip and grab some Trojans before the date. You may even find that he’s turned on by the fact that you premeditated your sexual escapades. Plus, it’s always better to be safe than sorry. There’s nothing worse than halting a passionate moment to have to go out and run that errand….talk about a thrill kill!
2. Take Your Time
I know, I know! You just want to rip off both of your clothes and get to the goods ASAP. Don’t let this rookie mistake ruin what could be a highly erotic experience. Foreplay is huge to a guy and can heighten the senses like no other. The first night with someone really is when you should take your time. So keep things slow and steamy from the get-go. During foreplay, when his hands start to wander too daringly or you think he may just want to dive in, grab his wrists and hold them tight. Then give him a long, drawn out kiss. Believe me, men love it when a woman takes control like this because it helps them understand what she wants. All you have to do to amp up the pleasure is alternate between heavy petting and kissing…when you think you’ve both had enough and you are both about to explode, then it’s time to seal the deal.
3. Acknowledge Awkward Moments
There are bound to be a few awkward moments in the throes of passion. Maybe he can’t get your bra undone or you knock heads in the heat of it all. It’s far better and a bit more fun if you find a way to lighten up these moments. If he’s having trouble with your bra, give him a smile and say, “Let me try. I know the trick with this one” Or if you knock heads, give him a gentle kiss on the area and a wink and move on. Keeping it playful is important and helps you both to stay relaxed.
4. Express Yourself
Whether or not it’s hard to believe, guys are not just concerned about their own pleasure. In fact, most guys have a harder time enjoying themselves when they’re unsure if their partner is having a good time. Because he doesn’t know you intimately yet, he doesn’t know all of your little inaudible signs of pleasure, so it’s crucial that you tell him. All you have to do is praise him when something feels really good because he’s bound to file it away and incorporate it into future sex sessions. By being vocal about what feels amazing, you keep the steamy momentum at present plus help him learn more of what you like.
5. Watch the Dirty Talk
Sure a guy loves to hear some nasty words come out of his chick when making sweet passionate, but that doesn’t mean the first time (or every time for that matter). Refrain from sounding like too much of a dirty girl from the get-go....you may scare him off if you are immediately dropping the “f” bomb and telling him where to stick it. Remember, if he wanted to date a pornstar, he would be doing so (he’s not Tiger Woods after all!).
6. Hold Back from Getting Crazy Acrobatic
Just like the dirty talk, a guy doesn’t want to see how you can pretzel yourself into some ungodly position when he is first with you. Although the way you have learned to contort your body may eventually be exciting for him, what he wants from you right now is to simply get to know your body slowly, albeit passionately. Keep that sex contortionist in you in your back pocket for some other time (or for when the circus is in town).
7. Don’t Overanalyze
Let’s say that things are VERY hot and heavy and you are feeling things wake in you that you thought were dead. It’s obvious that he’s taken you to pleasure town and you are doing a fabulous job of telling him when and where it feels good and moaning at oh-so-just the right moments. The problem is you’re not getting any form of feedback from him. You may be wanting to throw up a red flag at this point but don’t fret. Some guys have trouble expressing themselves with their first encounter with a new girl. As long as you’re enjoying yourself, don’t worry about him. Chances are he’s in hog heaven and the next time you are together he won’t have any problems letting you know how he’s really feeling!
8. Don’t Hide Your Orgasm
Yes, you are still getting to know each other and there are some things you may not want to do (or overdo) this time. Having an orgasm and letting him know is not one of them. A guy needs to know that he pleasured you and although you shouldn’t howl like a hyena and let all the neighbors know what’s going on over there, you should at least express some moans of pleasure when that sweet moment finally arrives. Keep in mind, the guy’s ego is at stake here and if he doesn’t know that you got something out of it, too, he will be crushed.
9. Walk Around Naked Afterward
Body confidence is a huge plus to a guy. If you jump out of bed and immediately fumble around for your clothes, this tells him that you are not comfortable with your body. Remember, the guy just spent the last hour or so exploring every inch of you from a very up-close angle…he saw it all! Show him that you are okay with your body (even if you’re not) and he’ll be more likely to want to go for another round.
10. Tell Him How Great it Was
Hopefully, you snagged a guy with plenty of confidence in himself. Even though this may be the case, he will still welcome any positive feedback from you. While enjoying your pillow talk after the main event, let him know how much you enjoyed yourself (provided of course you did enjoy yourself). If you feed his sex ego he’s much more likely to try even harder to please you the next time.
It’s important to know that being prepared for the first time with a new guy is critical. After all, you didn’t just throw on the first thing you can find and were ready for your first date with him in 5 minutes, right? So why should the first time you have sex be any different? Now do your homework and get prepared for this wonderfully delicious moment in your life….after all, it’s finally time to check the sex box.
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